Reflect and share your thoughts.

Three things we want in a relationship

Eyes that won’t cry
Lips that won’t lie
And love that won’t die

Inspired by a piece written by Krysti Wilkinson

What will you change today to have a deeper connection with someone?

I do my best to make this page a sanctuary. A place where people can come to find inspiration and comfort.

But today I am angry.

Two days ago a 19 year old white male walked into a Florida high school, with a legally obtained AR-15 assault rifle, and massacred 17 people. Mostly children.

The killer, Nikolas Cruz, was a member of a white supremacist group and one of his profile pictures showed a man whose face was covered and wearing a hat that read “Make America Great Again.”

His instagram had pictures captioned “arsenal,” showcased collections of firearms, including what appears to be a Savage Axis bolt-action rifle, a Smith and Wesson M&P15-series rifle, and at least two shotguns.

But in case law enforcement wasn’t alerted to any of this, since they only spy on Muslims, Cruz actually *spelled it out* for them. On Sept 24, 2017, he wrote on a public YouTube comment: “I’m going to be a professional school shooter.” Using his *full* *real* name.

The comment was screenshot and immediately reported to the FBI. They did absolutely nothing. I suppose I can understand why. They are too tied up spying on, and arresting innocent brown Muslims to have time to actually do their job protecting America against *actual* terrorism. Can you imagine if a Muslim wrote, “I’m going to be a professional shooter”?

One of the teachers who survived the massacre summed it up perfectly: “Our government, our country has failed us and failed our kids and didn’t keep us safe.”

And I couldn’t agree more.

A timely message, as “love is in the air.”:
The romantic exaggeration and persistence of the heart’s parasite is due to the fact that it is not a person you see—but rather an emotional and intellectual escape. Perhaps if it were a person you saw, you could disqualify them as impossible or imprudent. But you never get the chance. They are not human. They are a mental hideout, a refuge. And a mental construction need neither be possible, nor prudent–because it is not even real.
If you want to kill a mental construction, kill the circumstances that necessitate its’ existence.
Never go to the creation empty.

This is so upsetting.
These sources are from the CDC (Center for Disease Control and prevention) and this was also reported by reputable news sources like ABC news:

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“Thinking has become a disease. Disease happens when things get out of balance. For example, there is nothing wrong with cells dividing and multiplying in the body, but when this process continues in disregard of the total organism, cells proliferate and we have disease.

The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly – you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over…

Let me ask you this: can you be free of your mind whenever you want to? Have you found the off button?

Then the mind is using you. You are unconsciously identified with it, so you don’t even know that you are it’s slave. It’s almost as if you were possessed without knowing it, and so you take the possessing entity to be yourself. The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not the possessing entity – the thinker. Knowing this enables you to observe the entity. The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize that all the things that truly matter – beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace – arise from beyond the mind. You begin to awaken.”

–Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Sometimes the reason we can’t forgive is that we don’t see our own flaws. We spend our lives holding onto the wrongs people have done to us; but we don’t see all the wrongs we have also done to others. No one is perfect. And we are all in desperate need of forgiveness–from God and from the people.
Forgive. So that you too may be forgiven.

Every sight, sound and thought that you allow to enter you, is like food for your heart. It can either enrich. Or it can poison. It all depends on the quality. You wouldn’t drink poison. And you wouldn’t eat mold. In the same way, don’t allow poisonous and moldy food to enter your mind, eyes, or ears. Guard your heart, like you guard your body. Remember, even your body is temporary. Your heart and soul are not. They will move on from this fleeting life and will meet God in whatever condition you leave this world in. Keep them healthy. What does that mean? It means when you get a negative thought (demeaning self talk, despair, doubt, fear, waswasa), don’t indulge it. Don’t feed it or allow it to stay in the sanctuary of your mind and heart. When you come across immodest or anything you shouldn’t be looking at on the street *or on the screen*, lower your gaze and protect your heart. When you hear indecency, guard your ears, and protect your heart. Remember Allah has said: “The Day when there will not benefit [anyone] wealth or children. But only one who comes to Allah with a sound heart.” (Quran 26:88-89)

Know that the path to Allah is not a flat one. Your iman (faith) will go up and down. Your ability to worship will go up and down. But, know that for every dip, there is also a rise. Just stay patient, stay consistent, don’t lose hope and seek help in Allah. The path is hard. The path will have bumps and drops. But, like all things in this life, this path will come to an end. And that end will make it all worth it!

–Yasmin Mogahed, “Reclaim Your Heart”

**Attention victims of domestic abuse**
While I was in the UK, I met two women who were working for an organization called Staying Put. And I was so impressed by their model which I’ve never seen before. Most domestic violence support offers a shelter for the abused women and children to go to. This is amazing work, but unfortunately, it forces the victims and their families to be uprooted. What impressed me so much about this organization is that it works with the law, police and attorneys to remove the *abuser* from the home, rather than uprooting the victims. Since its inception, Staying Put has helped to change 50,000 lives. The service supports women and children who are fleeing domestic violence, yet allows them to remain in their own homes. If you know of a similar service in your country, please put the contact information below. If not, can we work towards getting similar initiatives in the US and other parts of the world.

For more information about Staying Put, visit or call 01274 667104.

In the past, women were kept down by directly depriving them of their rights. Now that they have fought for those rights, women are kept down in a different way. A subtle way. Now women are kept down by turning them into sex objects. So much so that no matter what position a woman holds, no matter what role she plays, no matter how successful she becomes, she is still looked at through the lens of her sex appeal. Show me a “successful” woman in our society, that isn’t eventually sexualized.
For me, my hijab is a statement I make every single day. A statement that I will not allow them to sexualize or commodify my beauty or my body. That I am a soul, before I am a pair of legs. And that I don’t answer to the slaves of God on earth.
I answer to their King.

Please share:
Often what happens when people first get married, is that one spouse suppresses who they really are, to try to fit the mold the other spouse has for them. This spouse mutes their own voice in hopes of pleasing the other person. Ironically, the other person still won’t be pleased. The way out of this trap, that some couples never escape, has 2 parts:
1. The spouse who suppressed what they really are-their feelings, needs and opinions-must find value in their authentic selves without need for validation. Value yourself, detached from the *need* for approval from the other person. This is key. Once you really do this, you will be able to express that voice (feelings, needs, opinions) without fear of being rejected or deemed unworthy and inadequate. Only when *you* find and value your own voice, will others value it also. If *you* don’t value you, others won’t either.

2. The spouse with the ‘mold’ needs to enable this opening by creating a safe and supportive space for their spouse to open up and express themselves. You may even complain that your spouse doesn’t open up and express themselves–but you haven’t created a safe space for them either. Throw away your mold and learn to value the uniqueness in your spouse. Help them develop the courage to express the beauty of the voice they already have inside them. Stop trying to mold them into what you think they should be, and make it safe for them to flourish into the beauty of what they already are.

“But, what if every single stumble, every challenge, every experience in our life was only intended for one purpose: to bring us back to our origin? What if every win, every loss, every beauty, every fall, every cruelty, and every smile was only intended to unveil another barrier between us and God? Between us and where we began, and where we are desperately seeking to return?

What if everything was only about seeing Him?”

–Yasmin Mogahed, “Reclaim Your Heart”